The rate at which young ladies date married men nowadays is alarming and calls for serious concern. The question to ask is, why do people do what they do? Why would anyone be comfortable with snatching another woman’s husband?
Many ladies often claim that married men provide the best care, affection and support while others believe married men display enormous maturity and as such, there is often little or no drama as obtained with dating a single guy.
For any woman dating a married man or nurturing the idea, I tell them that the gain, if any, is not worth the stress and danger involved. Going out with a married man in most cases ends in frustration and heartache. Its end is often devastating and leaves people involved with emotional bruises that they may never recover from.
Any lady who is eager and desperate to build a lifelong relationship should steer clear of married men. Simply put, a wise lady never dates an another woman’s husband.
From the start, dating a married man might look all exciting and beautiful, bear in mind, however, that you are simply being instrumental to the destruction of a couple’s home. Here are 10 dangers of dipping your feet in the sand of dating a man who is already married.
You Waste Your Life
In greater percentage of cases, a married man never leaves his wife. He may tell you that he will soon divorce his wife to be with you and just need a little more time to perfect things.
He keeps requesting more time and you keep granting, expecting that he will leave his wife to be with you, but that never gets to happen. In turn, you waste precious time that could have been spent in building a true affair with an another single man. I need not tell you that time wasted is life wasted.
You simply end up losing out completely, because when he has had a fill of the cookie he came for, a married man returns to his wife while you go back to point zero.
You Won’t Trust Each Other
Both of you cannot trust each other. How could you trust a man who is already cheating on his wife with you? While you are aware that he is not being honest with his wife, he is probably preoccupied with the thoughts of you also seeing another man.
Sharing Him With Another Woman
Frankly, you are not the one sharing him with another woman, it’s the wife sharing his husband and father of is kids with you. After the hot romance and sweet words, he returns home to meet the same woman he might have rubbished in your ears. The thoughts of having him sleep in the arms of another man could be destabilizing.
While we are comfortable with sharing any material thing in this part of the world, it’s often nerve wrecking to share a man you are emotionally attached to.
The Guilt Is Always There
Despite the adrenaline rush prompting you to continue a fair with a married man, feelings of guilt crosses your mind from time to time. Unless you have murdered your conscience, guilt sets in whenever you think of the damage you are doing to his wife and family. Would you want another woman to treat you the same way? In this case, you are the “other woman” depriving the wife and her kids of their father’s time. The guilt just never goes away.
He Cannot Meet Your Needs
One of the reasons ladies give when you ask while they choose to date married men is that he meets their needs. Although a married man can supply romance and sometimes, material things, he cannot meet all your needs. A husband is meant to spend time with his wife and kids, so he cannot be there for you at every of your trying moments.
Do not expect him to abandon his family on holidays and special seasons like Easter and Christmas period. No amount of money can purchase that.
You Suffer Emotional Heartbreak
Married men prefer to keep their extramarital affairs physical rather than committing emotionally. Should you become emotionally attached during the period of dating a married man, be ready to have your heart shred into pieces when he bids you farewell.
The emotional damage is a two-way process, you get heartbroken while the wife and his kids become emotionally disturbed if they do not enjoy their father’s attention anymore.
You Keep It Secret
Because of the stigma involved in dating another woman’s husband in this part of the world, you try your best not to publicize your affair. No romantic walk in the park, both of you are afraid of colleagues and families seeing you together. You do not enjoy the relationship as everything is done in secrecy.
You Can Sink Into Depression
When you date a married man, you can sink into depression in no time. You are going to spend a lot of time alone as he is a thorn in between sharing his time with his work, family and you. You cannot show up at his door anytime you miss him and feel like being with him. No unnecessary phone calls to just hear his voice, he might be with his wife at that point time. He dictates how and when you will see him avoid friction with his wife.
Be Ready For The Lies
He is already lying to his wife, so expect him to lie to you. You cannot demand truth from a man who does not have it. There are unreturned phone calls and messages all in the name of work and guarding against his wife finding out.
It May Cost You Your Life
Last but not the least is that dating a married man could send you to an early grave. In most cases, wives often notice a change of behaviour in their man once he starts cheating. Should you be unfortunate to date the man of a wife who is good at making research about home breakers and meting out punishment to them, be ready to pay with your life. Some wives will get rid of you and won’t feel any pang of guilt.
I believe these negative effects of dating a married man should extinguish any fire of love still burning within you. When you are turned between dating another woman’s husband and remaining single, please choose the latter as the former never ends well. Besides, you won’t remain single forever.
Ladies who go out with married men should always remember that what goes around comes around. No one can sow thorns and expect to reap corn.